Confessions of a recovering republican 

It’s bound to come out sooner or later, so you may as well hear it from me.

I used to be a republican. Quite a die hard actually.  I voted for George W. twice!  I just liked the man.  It wasn’t until later….much later, that I realized all those things I’d been told about the Republican Party were lies.

I believed they were the “fiscally conservative” party.  I, myself am quite fiscally conservative.  I believed the Republican Party meant less government and more freedom.  Hell, I even didn’t worry about gay rights or abortion–didn’t affect me!  So who cares?

But, over time, as a single mom, I began to realize….we aren’t gay by choice.  We aren’t single by choice (well, just the smart ones.  ;-)). But damned if the state didn’t keep taking my tax dollars.

They turned their back on me as a divorced, single woman.  They’d years ago turned their backs on our gay population.  And yet, they want our tax dollars and refuse us equal representation.  

Beyond that, my wake up call was when the Republican Party thought it should tell people who they were allowed to marry; they told women what they could or could not do with their own bodies; they told me that as a single, white woman, my energies would be better served in finding a husband rather than screaming at them “what the hell?!?”

And so, I’m now a proud democrat.  Small government doesn’t tell you who to marry.  Small government doesn’t want to govern women’s bodies.  Small government takes care of its people–gay, straight, black, white, male, female.  Small government means, “do what you want.  We’re here to protect your right to do it.”

And so now, I’m not a republican.  Just thought you should know.

And psssst.  Politics isn’t like sports.  It’s ok to switch sides when the other team loses their minds.  I did it.  No regrets. 

Coffee with Cramer!!

Good rainy afternoon, North Dakota!

This is your invite to “Coffee with Cramer” on May 27.

If you know Congressman Cramer, or if you’ve called his office to express your views; or emailed him and received no response–or better yet, received that response that says “thank you for contacting me.  I’m going to do what I want to do, fellow North Dakotan whose tax dollars pay my $172,000 per year salary and I don’t really care what you say…..but hey!  Thanks for not voting”, by all means, please go and chat at “coffee with Cramer.”

Ask him why he never gets back to you.  Ask him why he’s not listening to you.  Ask him why he gets so many campaign donations from big oil.  Better yet, ask him why he decided against being a pastor and went into politics instead.  Ask him if Jesus would be proud of him attempting to legislate hatred.  Ask him if he actually works for the people of North Dakota or if he believes he’s doing “God’s work”.  Just go.  Ask him questions.  Here’s the info:

Wednesday, May 27, pastor Cramer will be at:

Kerry’s Kitchen at 730 Front Street in Casselton from 9:30 to 10:30 am

Luna at 1545 South University Drive in Fargo from 2-3:00 pm

And Beans Coffee Bar at 5675 26th Ave. S. Suite 100 in Fargo from 4:30-5:30

And please share.  The more, the merrier!!  

Rapists get custody in North Dakota

Hey, cats and kittens, now that the legislative session is over, there are going to be a couple things that were not even touched on that I’m gonna bring up.  The first one is so ridiculous that it deserves its own blog.

Did you know that there are 31 states where a woman who is impregnated as a result of a rape, there is no law stopping the rapist/father from obtaining visitation or custody rights?   And surprise surprise!  North Dakota is one of the 31.  So, let’s say your teenage daughter gets drugged and raped at a party.  She ends up pregnant.  Now, being the good “pro life” North Dakota parent that you are, you tell her everything will be ok.  You support and love her.  You’ll be there to help her.

Now, as happens way too often in rape cases, this boy gets probation (that’s only if you had the stomach to allow your baby girl to go through the trial).  He gets out, his record is expunged in a year or two, you’re helping your baby girl with the son or daughter she has and bam!

You get papers in the mail that this guy wants visitation or even custody.   He did his time.  He’s got a good job now and he wants his kid.  You’d think having been a rapist and ruining your baby girl’s life and her trust in men would be a good reason for a judge to say no, right?  Well, that’s not what happens in other states.  You can read some of the truths here: 
Or here:
Or here:
But, can we please stop it before it starts in North Dakota? Since they cut proposed funding for sexual assault victims in half-after they first cut it altogether and the rational North Dakotans went wild, they gave them half ($250,000 the same day they approved 5 mill to get the governor a new mansion), one can only presume it’s because they just don’t give a damn about rape victims.  

Yeah.  I’m biased. I’m a survivor, but many are.  They just don’t talk about it because of the WAY THEY’RE TREATED!

So hey, in 2017, can we vote in people who give a damn?

Seriously, North Dakota?

I realize this is a serious issue and blog, so to lighten it up, please watch this clip on this very subject from the daily show:

Ethics?  We don’t need no stinking ethics 

Well, the North Dakota legislature has officially wrapped up for another two years.  Yep!  In good ole North Dakota, we only like our legislatin’ every other year.  That way, there’s a whole two years to fix the previous shenanigans.  No, wait.  It’s less gubmint.  That’s why.  We like less gubmint.  Or is it?

So, it wasn’t nearly as bad as 2013.  I mean, pre k assistance was approved but only for po’ folks that can’t afford it.  The rest of you tax paying North Dakotans?  Well, you make too gosh darn much money to get any help from that state you pay your taxes to.  But wait!  They also approved tax cuts.  So, quit yer bitchin’.  They know they aren’t doing anything that’ll help you so they’re letting you keep more of your own money.  God bless ’em.  

And thank goodness there were no more abortion restrictions proposed.  I guess after that whole six weeks, heartbeat thing, there was really nowhere else to go, right?  

But, gays get 0 rights.  Rape victims get half of what they need, and there’s still no ethics commission.  What’s that?  North Dakota legislature has no body to govern ethics of legislators?  Nope.  Not even a peep.  Now, North Dakota isn’t the only state without ethics….er…. I mean an ethics commission.  There are actually a few others as seen here:
But a logical thinking person would just assume that a state with a huge oil boom, out of state interests and tons of money flying would see the need for some ethics.  Nope.  For ethics, we need to wait two more years.  Happy voting!