Dems on Rick Becker: Let it go

You’re gonna hate me for this, but you know what? As a rape survivor, I honestly don’t give a damn what Rick Becker posts on his Facebook page. I’ve known who and what he was since I watched many of his videos of nothing but himself talking. Rick Becker is in love with Rick Becker and any attention to him is good attention. He’s even using the “outrage” to raise money presumably for a re-election campaign. In case you missed it, here is a screen shot of the exact post all of this ire is being hurled at:

Stop it. It was meme. If you want to be outraged for rape, please save it for actual victims. If you want to get angry and call for resignations, save it for the judges that give admitted rapists ridiculously light sentences. Save your outrage for the backlog of rape kits, the way rape victims are the ones on trial and on the lack of resources available to assist them. My point is, there are so many better things to spend your energy on than a stupid prison/soap in the shower meme. That joke is almost as old as Becker himself. The outrage seems overly political to me, with Democrats acting as though it’s the worst thing Becker has done. It seems like an excuse for Democrats to trash a republican and that’s it.

He’s loving the attention. You’ve given him reason to call you snowflakes and you’ve managed to make a bigger mountain out of a dumb meme than the issue of rape itself. I find it disingenuous and honestly, a little embarrassing. Please drop it now.

And Rick, if you want to impress survivors, rather than raise money for yourself, it would really impress me and I’m sure, other survivors, if you donated that money to the rape and abuse crisis center.

2019: North Dakota Legislature Aims at Taking Back the State’s 1975 Ratification of the ERA

At a time when many states are still ratifying the 1972 Equal Right Amendment, North Dakota legislators are hoping to pull back North Dakota’s 1975 ratification of it. Yes, you read that right. It always impressed me that North Dakota had ratified it at all, but it was one bit of ND history I could be proud of.  Not anymore.

Not only is North Dakota once again looking to strip away women’s rights to their own bodies again, but they’re seeking to take away the 1975 decry that women are equal to men. Ironically, they are stating that women are now equal to men while at the same time trying to make doctors lie to us if we’re facing an unwanted pregnancy. Equal? I don’t think so. Also, ironically, this is coming at a time when our neighbor to the east is pushing to ratify the ERA in their state constitution at last. You can read about Minnesota ERA movement here:

Perhaps, the North Dakota state legislature is so afraid it will finally pass and they will have to stop with the abortion crap and treat women as equals, so they are going to pull back their ratification. The ERA failed by three states. Since then, those states are still being pushed to ratify it and it is coming up in their legislative sessions thanks to the work of many tireless women that have been fighting for it since it began. Fearing those 3 states will finally ratify, the sneaky NoDak legislators are going to try and take one back. HB3037 sponsors are:

In case you don’t have time to click on each link, these are all old, white men. Not one woman legislator would introduce a bill to remove equal rights ratification in North Dakota. If you do have a chance to click on each of the links, you will find each rep’s phone number and email address to contact them and tell them what you think.

You can read the full text of the bill here:

Taking back ERA ratification?

Seriously, North Dakota?





Why is Rural North Dakota so Dangerous?

The second amendment states we have the right to bear arms. Absolutely, I believe in it. It’s in the constitution. Of course, we all have the right to bear arms. We absolutely have a right to fight government tyranny. We have a right to feel safe in our homes. We have a right to shoot anything or anyone that threatens us

However (the fancy, but) is, why are so many North Dakotans so terrified of anything, that they feel the need to be packing everywhere they go?

Was there an influx of damned Mexicans that invaded North Dakota?

Did they hear about our wonderful climate and felt the enormous desire to get in?

I mean, looking at our current legislative session and the number of gun rights bills, in addition to last session’s “constitutional carry” law, I thought perhaps there was a terrible threat I was facing.

Are the wolves at the door? Should I strap myself with a pistol everywhere I go? My god, if someone is trying to kill me for being a middle-aged, single, female property owner, please, someone tell me.

Or, is it just the small towns and rural cities that are facing this threat? I mean, I see all the legislators from small towns or ranches putting forth these bills about our god-given right to carry guns. Is there a rabid deer outbreak? Is it a bunny-in-your garden thing? Or do you actually fear that a homosexual liberal is going to come to your door and steal your freedom?

I’m sure walking down Main Street in Lisbon, ND is a scary thing for a strapping, young male republican in largely republican North Dakota, but I truly need to know.

What are you so afraid of that you need assault rifles, a bump stock, and a pistol to protect yourself from?

Are the turkeys rabid on your property? Or, should I be worried?

Please, tell me.

Don’t Be Fooled, NoDak!

While our panties are all wadded over bible bill 2136 to offer kids bible studies in public schools, the North Dakota superior class of smarter-than-thou legislators are trying to push through a more sinister bill, 4001. This bill, would still allow we, the lowly, dumbass voters in North Dakota to petition to get proposed constitutional amendments on the ballot. Hell, it would even let us vote on them! We could approve of a ballot measure in a landslide with our God-given votes (those bible classes teach about votes, right? Power to the people? Free will?); but if the legislature doesn’t also approve of it? It gets tossed.

That’s right….let’s think back to some of the measures we’ve voted on and approved: remember medicinal marijuana? What the hell happened to that? Wasn’t that approved 4 years ago now? Man, things sure move slowly in North Dakota–unless it’s running down protesters in the street or making sure every Tom, Rick, and Bette can carry a concealed weapon anywhere anytime. Bang! Bang! Yeehaw!

Oh….hang on there, pardner. This bill isn’t really about medicinal marijuana is it? No, it’s about that pesky ethics bill we voted for. Remember all the pushback? All those honest-as-the-day is long legislators saying they don’t have any ethic problems so they don’t need an ethics bill? Yeah….this is about that one.

North Dakotans aren’t dumb, folks. We may like our republicans, but we know they’re still politicians and taking money when they shouldn’t and always looking for ways to screw us. That’s why we approved an ethics bill. The very thought that those corrupt-as-the-day-is-long politicians have put forward a vote to make our voices null and void?

Well, isn’t that just more proof that we sure as hell need a damned ethics bill?

Don’t worry about bible classes offered in school, NoDak. It would never survive a challenge in court. Of course, your legislators are happy to waste your money fighting to make the country church and the school the same just like back on the prairie. Only, now Mrs. Wilder would be packing heat.

What you should be concerned about; pissed off about even, is that your politicians you voted into office want to toss your vote if they don’t like the cockamamie measures you approve of like ethics for politicians. If they discount your vote on ballot measures so easily, who’s to say our vote for them should count either? Oh, wait….

Ethics, anyone?

I’ve Never Endorsed a Candidate. I am now.

I’ve been asked a few times to endorse this person or that person. I’m not sure why. I only have a blog and a Facebook page about North Dakota. I’ve never done it. Until now. I’m endorsing Heidi Heitkamp for senate and the reason may surprise you.

Are there many reasons to endorse Heidi? Yes, there are. She consistently fights for North Dakotans even when the democrats don’t like it. She does what she believes in even when the republicans don’t like it. She consistently fights for the underdog. She cares and wants to make a difference. How do I know she really cares and isn’t just another politician?

Heidi is a cancer survivor. Cancer is a death sentence for many. When you hear the word “cancer”, you start making plans to die. You don’t want to, but you know you may be taken from this world long before you’d hoped to be. That diagnosis changes you. It changed me.

You make promises to God, to family, to yourself. You say, “if you let me survive this, I promise I’ll earn it.” And, if you’re fortunate enough to survive, you spend your remaining days making good on that promise.

Heidi has faced her own mortality. She’s made a choice to spend the rest of her life trying to make the world a better place. Survivors also wonder why they survive and others do not. We have to make ourselves worthy.

That’s why I believe that Heidi is the real deal. She fights with her heart, her mind and her desire to leave the world better than she found it. She fights to earn that survival.

I get that. As a cancer survivor, I fully endorse Heidi Heitkamp for senate and whatever else she chooses to do to make the world a better place than she found it.

Dear Kevin

We’re from the same hometown. I remember you ministering at my church when I was barely a teenager. I’ve heard and seen you say some horrible things and I’ve disagreed with you. I didn’t think you could possibly say anything worse than mass shootings are caused by legalized abortion; welfare recipients shouldn’t eat if they can’t work; or people with pre-existing conditions were “gaming the system.”

But, then, you went ahead and said it. Even if Kavanaugh was guilty of what Ford says he did, does that disqualify him for the Supreme Court?


30 years ago I was raped. It was at a party quite similar to what Ford describes except I was in college. I was 18, a freshman, and at a house party at NDSU.

One man took me down into the basement. He was an NDSU track star. I know. I shouldn’t have gone to the basement with him. His room mate stood at the top of those stairs pushing away anyone that asked about me or to see me.

He pushed me down on his bed, forced himself on me and then invited his room mate to do the same as he watched the door.

I went to the party. I wore a turtleneck and a mini skirt. I should’ve known better, right Kevin?

When it was all over, the first guy put a gun to my head and called me a whore for “f%#ing his room mate.” He left and I was trapped there. A third room mate came home and knocked on the door. I cried for help and he came in and helped me. He drove me to the hospital.

I did report everything, Kevin. I told my story to the police. The men were arrested. I was questioned repeatedly by officer after officer. My clothes were taken as evidence. My hair was pulled, my fingernails scraped, and I was given a rape exam.

I ended up dropping the charges because the prosecuting attorney told me how difficult rape cases were; how awful the questioning would be, and how strong I would have to be.

I wasn’t that strong when I was 18, Kevin. I didn’t want to put my family through it and I wasn’t strong enough to put myself through it.

I remember their faces and names. I remember in horrifying detail what happened that night 30 years ago. I remember how I quit school for 6 years and lived in fear. I know how I was afraid to trust anyone.

You better believe, if one of those monsters shows up as a candidate for the Supreme Court, I’d have something to say about it.

Yes, Kevin, sexual assault–even if it was 30 years ago, does disqualify someone from a lifetime appointment on the Supreme Court.

221,000 didn’t vote in North Dakota 

Voter turnout is low. Voting is our only voice. 221,000 eligible voters stayed home. The population of North Dakota is approximately 750,000, so those 221,000 would actually make a difference.  Why do people not vote? 

Your thoughts are greatly appreciated in this survey. I’m not a politician or a journalist. I’m just a curious person. 

Were they: 

Too busy/couldn’t get time off?

Thought their votes wouldn’t matter?

Didn’t know any of the candidates? 

Don’t want to participate?


What is it, 221,000 people?  I’m curious.